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Topic: Is your partner modified or not?
Posted By: LucieMay
Subject: Is your partner modified or not?
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 7:39pm
I've just started seeing a guy with absolutely no mods at all. I'm also his first heavily modified girlfriend and he finds it quite novel. It's quite a change because my most recent ex was heavily tattooed with ear stretches and a 10mm PA. It's not an issue but it is interesting for us both to date someone so different. My current fella is used to seeing them on other people as we're both into metal and heavy rock and a lot of his friends are modified.


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Posted By: metalbabe
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 7:53pm
i find the novelty factor to be problematic in the long run. As with all new things it tends to be appealing and exciting and interesting. After a while, it will lose its appeal and the want for 'normal' will kick in again, which is where 'don't you think you've got enough mods?' or 'don't get any more cos its too much' will start.

This, i speak of through experience - and those exact words were said to me by both non-modded AND modded guys. They just happened not to be into Body Modification.. they just saw tattoos/piercings as just that. There is a very big gap between a Tattooed/Pierced Person, and a BModder. To one it is just an accessory, to the other it is a lifestyle.

Back to your question, my partner is slightly modded - stretched earlobes so far, with a want for more mods, eventually, from what he's mentioned. And he is a Bmodder too

Good luck with New Guy!


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Posted By: freakychild
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 9:12pm
thank fuck, my girlfriend is modded (and is also a Bmod Member)...

the previous girlfriend (whadda bitch) was unmodified except for ear lobe piercings at 18g...  she was also not supportive at all of my modding decisions...

I'm really happy that Ms. S is modded, and into the same type of modding that i am...
infact, we'll be suspending together in about a month... so, yay!

there are boundaries.... not ones that are like 'if you do this, i wont like you'  but  boundaries such as 'i don't really like this particular thing, but if you want to do it have fun and i'll still love you no matter what'



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Posted By: tattooedtrish
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 9:29pm
My boyfriend & I met at a suspension event. He has quite a few piercings, is into suspensions, and has a split tongue; but he doesn't have any tattoos or heavier modifications..... yet.

My previous boyfriend wasn't modified at all, and hated the thought of me doing suspensions or getting into heavier modifications (my tongue was split when I was with him, but that was it for heavy stuff). So I went without him, he sent me really mean text messages all weekend, and I ended up meeting the guy I'm with now lol.


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Posted By: xjessiex
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 9:53pm

My dude is the first guy i've dated (also, my first boyfriend ever:P), so far two years in- he has piercings and is covered in tattoos, but doesn't really plan to have any 'heavy' mods.
That being said, its still funny when he wanted to get his fingernail tattooed (he filed his thumb nail down too far so it actually came off lol) my first reaction was 'you idiot- why! it'll hurt like a bitch and won't last!'
His reaction: 'i'm just doing it for the experience'...lol. says i with branding, scars and split tongue:P He still stresses when i get inked because i swell up and bleed all over the bed:P
I think its an automatic reaction to not want your partner to go through pain! That being said neither of us has stopped the other from getting something (or would even bother to!), and tease in jest and not in earnest about mods.

I don't think being modded is necessity for me- but if they're not then they have to be pretty awesome and make up for it in other ways hahaha.
My friends wouldn't bother to tell me what to do when it comes to do with mods, so I would assume my partner has to be a friend, too!



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Posted By: sames89305
Date Posted: May/29/2011 at 10:53pm
My wife has 0 tattoos but is in to what I refer as "fun stuff."

I personally have 72 dermal anchors, and my wife has 43. She has a large scarification piece on her back and has branding on her leg.

I think it is awesome that she isn't in to tattoos.







Posted By: merrry
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 12:47am
When we met I had 2 standard sized holes in each ear and a tattoo and he had nothing. He took me for my nipples to get pierced and a year later he got his ears pierced at 4g. Now they're 00g and I've had about all the piercings tattoos and scarifications that I could possibly want,  including a dermal anchor. He has expressed interest in a tattoo and scarification, but nothing is actually planned Big%20Grin
 
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Posted By: Calem
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 1:30am
Aye, she is, almost a full back piece and a small tattoo on her right arm. But it was not what brought us together...
Pink Floyd did that :P

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Posted By: MrJonz
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 1:43am
Originally posted by Calem


Pink Floyd did that :P


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Posted By: belle
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 4:10am
my partner is heavily tattooed....ive had a sleeve done since we have been together, and am having laser treatment to be able to work on a chest piece...its my body, hes never said anything about me getting more tattoos..i had a full back, and leg sleeve before he came along. im not too sure how he would be about me doing a suspension..its not really on the cards for me, but if i did, its up too me. the only thing he was really vocal about was when i wanted to "shave for a cure" (shave my hair off for a cancer fundraising event)  he was like..."dont let the door hit your ass on the way out!"    i kinda figured i'd let him have his wee victory, as he doenst get too win much with me around.Wink

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Posted By: evalution
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 11:53am
my partner is not modified at all. we're both a bit odd in different ways, so it works pretty well. the only issue i've had is his attempting to explain my mods (and future mods) to his very conservative mother.  i'm not sure i'dve mentioned them to her at all, and i know how i like to explain things, so that was fun to hear about..
he's very supportive, and really, i think that's all that matters for us.


Posted By: Carrie_p2005
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 8:56pm
My husband is a tattoo artist.  Enough said lol.


Posted By: jim01
Date Posted: May/30/2011 at 10:04pm
  My ex is tattooed full back and tats on arms and legs i have went out with a few women without any mods and it just dosen't feel right they act interested but then it turns to can you wear a long sleeve shrit no i don't own one and then the big i would never do that to myself and the one i hate most why do you do it so it's modified ladies only for me


Posted By: Eui1337
Date Posted: May/31/2011 at 2:36pm
when we started dating my boyfriend had an eyebrow piercing, an labret piercing, and his ears were stretched to about 1/2" and he had two tattoos.

a few months after we started dating we got our tongues pierced together.

now, he only has his tattoos left. he took all his piercings out for work, but he talks about getting his labret re-done in the future. and he's working on his back piece at the moment. so even though he doesn't have any of his piercings anymore. i still see him as modified.


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Posted By: willbeme
Date Posted: May/31/2011 at 2:40pm
My girlfriend has two tattoos, but is not considering anything else. She doesn't mind if I decide to get more!


Posted By: Cale
Date Posted: May/31/2011 at 10:01pm
I don't think I could be with someone that isn't modified. It makes understanding things a lot easier, and well, I like a hot modified guy. :)


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Posted By: twisted666
Date Posted: June/01/2011 at 10:12am
I've never really been with someone who was modified. There was one who got tattooed and pierced cos I was (yeah, creepy) But cos I'm currently not into dating, even going by those who I socialise with, the biggest mods are a girl with 2g ears and a guy who has "Fuck Off" on his ass. Mostly they're not douches about me being pierced, and with my friend Shannon and I, we go along together when were getting piercings, or tats for me. 


Posted By: vivahate
Date Posted: June/06/2011 at 6:10pm
Never dated anyone as heavily tattooed as me. Currently seeing someone who does have a few tattoos and piercings though.

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Posted By: angelfetus
Date Posted: June/11/2011 at 7:28am
My Other half is less inked than me, but has more in the way of piercings....But she has a love of both, and will continue adding to them.

I have pretty much always been more attracted to Modded girls, but i've had the occasional partner with minimal stuff done.


Posted By: anarchlien
Date Posted: June/11/2011 at 11:48am
NOPE!!
I am the single forever and always :3 ....plus all the cute modded people I see are usually already snatched up :(

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Posted By: ZombiePhlegm
Date Posted: June/13/2011 at 8:18pm
Originally posted by anarchlien

NOPE!!
I am the single forever and always :3 ....plus all the cute modded people I see are usually already snatched up :(




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Posted By: LucieMay
Date Posted: June/14/2011 at 1:58pm
Originally posted by ZombiePhlegm

Originally posted by anarchlien

NOPE!!
I am the single forever and always :3 ....plus all the cute modded people I see are usually already snatched up :(




<3 That guy.

Well it all fell apart after a few weeks. Nothing to do with my mods or his lack of them. Back to the single life we go!

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Posted By: anarchlien
Date Posted: June/14/2011 at 7:22pm
The forever alone guys' tears give me hope that he may oneday not be alone :/

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Posted By: anarchlien
Date Posted: June/14/2011 at 7:22pm
Originally posted by LucieMay

Originally posted by ZombiePhlegm

Originally posted by anarchlien

NOPE!!
I am the single forever and always :3 ....plus all the cute modded people I see are usually already snatched up :(




<3 That guy.

Well it all fell apart after a few weeks. Nothing to do with my mods or his lack of them. Back to the single life we go!


High five for being single, sucks to hear it all fell apart though.

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Posted By: LucieMay
Date Posted: June/15/2011 at 4:47am
Originally posted by anarchlien

Originally posted by LucieMay

Originally posted by ZombiePhlegm

Originally posted by anarchlien

NOPE!!
I am the single forever and always :3 ....plus all the cute modded people I see are usually already snatched up :(




<3 That guy.

Well it all fell apart after a few weeks. Nothing to do with my mods or his lack of them. Back to the single life we go!


High five for being single, sucks to hear it all fell apart though.


Cheers! It was my own fault really, I fucked up.

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Posted By: zobro
Date Posted: June/19/2011 at 8:52pm
When I met my fiance, he had 1/2" lobes and an 8g tongue piercing, I had four lobe piercings at 10g.  That was almost five years ago.  He stretched to 11/16", then took 'em out to let them go down so his job chances could go up.  About a month ago he took out his tongue piercing because it was bothering him.... so he's completely unmodified now, not counting that his lobes are probably 00g or so and won't close further.


Posted By: AmberLyn
Date Posted: June/20/2011 at 3:21am
My fiance has his septum pierced and he has his bottom lip pierced twice. His ears are also stretched to 11/16. He also has 4 tattoos and plans on getting more. He has retired a couple of eyebrow piercings and a bridge piercing.

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Posted By: Ishkur
Date Posted: June/20/2011 at 3:49pm
My boyfriend has nothing, and never has had anything. Not even a simple ear piercing. NADA. But at one point, before he met me, he was thinking of getting his lip pierced. But he said he never got around to it, which I take as "bock bock bock bock." He doesn't mind my septum piercing, he says he thinks its "cute" on me. But he has set a strong rule as I cannot stretch it. He also didn't want me to stretch my lobes passed 14g, but I'm at 00g, but he has really put his foot down at 1/2". :( He also has set rules on where I can and cannot get tattoos, and how many I can have, and what they are. :/

But that's okay, I love him, and I still want to be what he thinks is attractive, he deserves it with all the BS he has put up through-out his dating/life.

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Posted By: hotgabriela
Date Posted: June/20/2011 at 4:08pm
Well my dear partner IS so not positive when it comes to my mods! :(
I want to get my chest done tattoed-no way, I am planning my cheeks piercings he said they will look ugly on you- I had them before and he hated them,
my septum-oh what is the point!!. It kind of knocks my confidence,to the point that I look in the mirror and ask myself am I that ugly!! LOL!
It is the main reason that I am here,it is just nice and warm and cool to be with people are in different places,time etc yet we all have this common thread!! :)


Posted By: GracefulDancing
Date Posted: June/21/2011 at 2:54pm
My boy has tattoos, scarification, some crazy industrials, 00g lobes and a PA. He's into suspension. He would probably have more done if it weren't for work. It's definitely something that bonds us which I haven't had with anyone else.


Posted By: jim01
Date Posted: June/22/2011 at 1:07am
  i knew better but i went on a blind date a couple friends of mine set this up. i met them and her at a restaurant and me were introduce to each other we were setting their talking and waiting for are food. when second thing out of her mouth was what's with all this shit pointing to some of my ink. I got up excused myself and left that's it no more women without mods.


Posted By: Mizzbee666
Date Posted: June/24/2011 at 9:51am
^^^^  Jim01...  Good for you.  :)
 
I could only ever date a modified man. 
And I would/ could NEVER date anybody who dictated what I could and couldn't get or how far I can stretch (WTF??????).
It's my body! My choices! MY LIFE!!!
Your partner should accept you for who you are....  Not how they would like you to be/ look.  Dunce
 


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Posted By: metalbabe
Date Posted: June/24/2011 at 11:17am
...accept*

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Posted By: Calem
Date Posted: June/24/2011 at 12:50pm
Originally posted by metalbabe

...accept*



Naysayer :P

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Posted By: Snotface
Date Posted: June/24/2011 at 12:56pm
My other half is kinda modified, but only a little...


Posted By: thesounknown
Date Posted: June/24/2011 at 2:28pm
My partner has half sleeves, tattoos on his forearms, and a matching tattoo with me on his foot.  He's not interested in any other body modification.  He had snakebites when he was in high school, but that's all the piercings he's had.  He doesn't actively want any more tattoos either.  Mainly just cos he'd rather spend his money on musical equipment/computer stuff.  I don't care, he's adorable how he is.  Also, I don't consider my modifications a "lifestyle" just more of a "hobby" :) He doesn't care if I continue this hobby, though he does have his limits and (like pretty much everyone else I know) he doesn't want me to stretch my ears too large.  That annoys me, but oh well.  I like my partners to be modified, because I find in attractive, but they don't have to be really into the lifestyle or anything.


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Posted By: metalbabe
Date Posted: June/25/2011 at 4:39am
Originally posted by Snotface

My other half is kinda modified, but only a little...

you talking about your right or left half?


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Posted By: Jawbonz
Date Posted: June/25/2011 at 11:06am
We are both modified, but with me only tattoos at this point.  Ear piercing and tongue YEARS ago, but I grew out of one, and shattered a crown/chipped a tooth with the other, so it went too.  I'm really only interested in more ink, not piercings.

My wife is pierced and tattooed, with more interest in piercings than ink at this point.  I'm good with either, but much prefer a woman with mods to some degree, preferably ink.  It's what turns me on more.


Posted By: Snotface
Date Posted: June/25/2011 at 12:18pm
Originally posted by metalbabe


Originally posted by Snotface

My other half is kinda modified, but only a little...
you talking about your right or left half?

This illustrates one of the many reasons why I love you.


Posted By: ZombiePhlegm
Date Posted: June/25/2011 at 7:33pm
Originally posted by Snotface

Originally posted by metalbabe


Originally posted by Snotface

My other half is kinda modified, but only a little...
you talking about your right or left half?

This illustrates one of the many reasons why I love you.


whom!

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Posted By: Snotface
Date Posted: June/25/2011 at 9:37pm
That makes no sense, Jack.


Posted By: ZombiePhlegm
Date Posted: June/26/2011 at 12:23am
I'm dissapointed in you! Have you already forgotten the 20 solid minutes of laughter that coaxed from Ros? :P

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Posted By: Snotface
Date Posted: June/26/2011 at 8:18am
No but your reference was so obscure that I had no idea that was what you were on about


Posted By: ZombiePhlegm
Date Posted: June/26/2011 at 9:08am
well you were talking about reasons why you loved her... it made perfect sense to me! :P

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Posted By: Snotface
Date Posted: June/26/2011 at 6:49pm
D'aww. Well that illustrates one of the reasons why I love you.


Posted By: hellodave
Date Posted: July/15/2011 at 6:40pm
Okay, so I know I'm not really that modified yet, but I do intend to be one day. My partner of at least a year has no mods or any interest in them but has accepted the piercings I have so far (he has never seen me without them, therefore sees them as parts of my body as I do). He has also accepted my intentions to get a VCH piercing (despite the "shudder" factor he has towards it) and my nipples re-pierced (I had my nipples pierced and retired before we met).
However, I have expressed my interest in heavier stuff such as suspension, ear pointing and tongue splitting to him; he doesn't seem too bothered about suspensions as they are not permanent and he doesn't have to witness them if he doesn't want to, or ear pointing, as I have showed him ear points (by Samppa von Cyborg, as that's who I wish to do mine) and I think, to be honest, he would prefer my ears pointed to their natural state as I would. But he says things such as tongue splits are "unattractive" and most tattoos and scarification are "tacky". I want to explain to him how much these comments hurt me, but I don't know how to go about it. The only thing I've said so far is "I'm unattractive anyway, so a bit more won't hurt" (on tongue splits etc). But I'm so scared he will leave me if I get the mods I want.
I know the main response here will be "no one can stop you doing what you want to your body", but I love him more than anything and couldn't cope if he walked away. I'm so confused, scared and torn. If he really loves me, he will stand by me no matter what, right? But I don't want him to think I'm deliberately modifying myself to hurt him or myself (unfortunately, I am a self-harmer and it scares the hell out of him, which is understandable; it scares the hell out of me sometimes haha).
Many of you guys must have been torn between mods and other people/things, which is why I'm asking for your help and honest advice.
But please, no judgmental comments against my partner; he doesn't understand my desires or motivations, he is concerned for my wellbeing. Advice on how to make him understand is what I'm asking for. I know I can always count on you guys. Thanks. =]


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Posted By: CheeseStix
Date Posted: July/16/2011 at 7:38am
Perhaps a simple explanation of why you want the modifications. A lot of people can't grasp the concept that they can make someone happier with themselves. It's not to say there's anything wrong with who you are now, or that anything about you needs to be changed. But perhaps if he understood that it was something that would make you happier, more confident, etc.
It's just my personal theory, but I'd like to think that knowing an action, a change, or what have you, would make someone happier, would make me more willing to accept it. It's all that communication game.
Now for the rough part of the idea.. Have you thought of asking him how he would feel if you did these things? Not just whether they're attractive or not, or if he likes them, but bluntly whether they would affect his opinion of you, and if he could/would still be with you. That's the heart of your question, why not just ask it directly, for better or worse. You'll have your answer.

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Posted By: jim01
Date Posted: July/18/2011 at 8:05am
  i've started seeing a lady that has just started getting mods she has 1 tat and a vch piercing she may be new to all of this but she is 1 hell of a woman were fixing to add some more to her tat in a few days and her first mod was at age 50  


Posted By: dollymonster
Date Posted: July/23/2011 at 4:46pm
My mister (whom you all pretty much know!) is definitely more modded than I, I have quite a bit of ink and a number of piercings & dermal anchors with stretched ears, but with even more ink than me, and a split tongue etc. he wins.  As much as i really like the ideal of a lot of heavier mods than just tattoos and piercings... I'm a proper wimp :P and hate pain... soooo the pointed ears and tongue split i'd quite fancy are for sure a no go.

I've been with a fair few people with no mods what so ever but I'm very much so more attracted to people with.  Even just having stretched ears can make someone look 10% more attractive in my books


Posted By: metalbabe
Date Posted: July/23/2011 at 6:42pm
Admit it, you're with Andy just cos of his mods

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Posted By: LexLuthor
Date Posted: July/27/2011 at 4:40pm
While my girlfriend may have more visible piercings than me (albeit, mostly lobes,) mine are bigger and, other than my labret and tunnels, pretty out of the way.

I think when we got together, about 3 years ago I only had a 6m septum and an 8m lobe. Oh how we've both grown.


Posted By: Rhuin
Date Posted: July/27/2011 at 5:05pm
My current man is tattooed and pierced, he's not massively modified but he does have a desire for more and doesn't have any problem with my heavier stuff, or my desire to get more work done so that's always handy.

My ex was tattooed but despite having been with other branded girls etc. seemed to have more of a problem with the heavier stuff, not massively though.


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Posted By: Jawbonz
Date Posted: July/27/2011 at 7:57pm
Yep, and I love it.


Posted By: MsAnn
Date Posted: November/07/2011 at 5:00pm
My mister is a walking advertisement for modification lol tattoos, implants, stretched ears, punched/scalpelled this and that..the works (there's too much there to list, I even forget all the stuff he has done sometimes). And I absolutely love it :)

I think a few people on here know him through facebook.



Posted By: samantha_sick
Date Posted: December/04/2011 at 9:02am
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years.
I have a lot of modifications done and he has nothing, and has no interest in it, and doesn't find them attractive.
I still drool over heavily modified guys all the time.
But the fact that we overlook the appearance preferences I think speaks mountains of our emotional and intellectual connection.
One big thing that helps is he's never told me not to do something (except tongue split, cause he said it'd freak him out, but I'm slowly changing his mind)

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Posted By: calliewallie
Date Posted: December/04/2011 at 10:31am
i don't understand how anyone could be happy in a relationship where their partner sets 'rules' for what they can and can't do with their appearance, who has any right to dictate what anyone does?
i would never in a million years try and hold someone back from something they wanted to do with their appearance, even if i didn't like it.

my new interest has mods, he's quite heavily tattooed and has a few piercings, nothing hardcore. i think he's perfectly happy with anything i want or want to try and would support me in any choices, and i would do the same for him. i'll support anything that makes him happy.



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